1) If it was the other way around: The first big rule is what would you think if your partner was having the same friendship with someone else? This is one of the best measuring methods of whether the friendship is inappropriate.
2) Opposite sex: I’m not saying don’t have friends with the opposite sex, but this is a good clue to their being a potential problem ;o) 3) Many years age difference: Having a close relationship with a girl many years younger, or a guy who is much older (and of course it can go vice versa in this new world of the Couga!
If you liked this Problem Corner, then you would definitely be interested in one two years later, where a wife was concerned about the friendship between her husband and a co-worker.
** UPDATE ** There have been so many hits on this post this year and so many comments, that I don’t feel I can give the required attention to.
Other people will shout at me ‘but you should be able to trust your man’; again I point you to reality and the fact that trust can very easily turn into taking for granted; So here is my answer, feel free to add any more tips you might have from your own experiences.
On their own, none of them are obvious signs, but they are all potential markers of a friendship that could change in nature and if many of the points are true, then it’s much more worrisome …
If you are reading this and need more help, please do feel free to get in touch via my Facebook page – I can always do a session with you via Skype (a lot of my clients are international). ) to enjoy being a Mum more with my books and blog (I don’t get much time to work 1to1 with people now a days).
You’ll see on my blog the series ‘Sparkling You’ which birthed my Amazon bestseller on how to get more contentment, time, energy, space, money and sparkle in your life.Plus, women have rules of engagement that we understand, like lionesses marking our territories, however men probably don’t notice these subtleties at all.The question I got was: ‘I keep having friendships with women that seem to cross some kind of invisible line that my wife can see, but I don’t see.I’m all for having friendships of both sexes, because it helps to give us insights into the opposite sex, and because they will give us such a different viewpoint and approach to life.The key is to make sure that the boundaries are kept in place and that you aren’t naive; you know the saying ‘never say never’.14) You already have a history with them: If they are an ex, then they could easily become a ‘present’!