How do you want your spiritual relationship to improve? Describe both the strengths and the weaknesses of your mate. What potential problems do you anticipate in your marriage? Have you been involved in pornography in the past or are you at present? What is there about your present relationship that makes it different from those past instances which did not last? Describe the spiritual dimension of your relationship up to this time?You might have to meet privately, men with men, women with women, in order for this to surface as an issue to address.
Only in this way will you be able to know what additional resources you will want to incorporate into your meetings. If the couple is not committed in this way, it will be impossible, for example, for the husband to obey the command of Ephesians : “Husbands love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” How can a husband love his wife as Christ also loved the church if he is not committed to the principals of biblical headship?
It will be wise to work through those passages of Scripture in Section 3, Recommended Preparation Prior to Counseling. A Christian marriage is a lifelong building project that begins on the foundation of God’s Word.
Counselors should feel free to adapt this approach to their own gifts and style, so long as the essentials are covered. This guide is intended to assist you in planning and working through the counseling process with your couple. From this approach, you might be able to glean the following. Does the couple talk about their faith with each other? Are they confident about the other’s conversion, and is it true faith so far as they can tell? Does the couple seem to have an interest in spiritual things? It is a delight to hear a couple talk about the Lord, what He has done in their life, and how He is still at work.
Keep in mind also that each couple to be counseled will have different levels of spiritual maturity and needs. Some will be engaged for the first time; others may have been married before. The primary source to help you in organizing your meetings will be William J. This approach can also completely stump the couple!
First, and most important; Do both the bride and groom profess faith in the Lord?
Although there is a lot to do in this first meeting, there are four things that must take priority.
” The best way to start is to look at God’s Word on the subject.
Have the couple turn to and read Ephesians 5:3, I Thessalonians 4:1-8 and Hebrews 13:4.
Then ask them where they stand in relation to these verses. Another difficult discussion to have, but necessary, is the issue of pornography and/or sexual abuse.