“This is an aggravating statement for women to read, no doubt.
They do not want to be responsible for ‘raising’ men.
Add online pornography and dating sites to the mix and you don’t even need relationships.
The result is “two overlapping (but distinctive) markets, one for sex and one for marriage, with a rather large territory in between comprised of significant relationships of varying commitment and duration,” Regnerus writes in “Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy” (Oxford University Press).
“Nowadays young men can skip the wearying detour of getting education and career prospects to qualify for sex,” they write. This is today’s version of the opiate of the (male) masses.” Regnerus argues that while women have maintained their role as sexual gatekeepers, men control the marriage market.
And given the ease with which sex can be accessed, Regnerus believes that men’s motivations for marriage have all but disappeared.
There’s something to it.” Meanwhile, many will go it alone.
Self-love for men and women is at an all-time high.Not surprisingly, Jacob, in his early 30s, "felt he had no idea how to make a relationship work." Jacob knew this about himself before he ever created a profile.But he says online dating made him more confident about his prospects.Regnerus calls it “cheap sex,” an economic term meant to describe sex that has very little cost in terms of time or emotional investment, giving it little value.Regnerus bases his ideas, in part, on the work of British social theorist Anthony Giddens, who argued that the pill isolated sex from marriage and children.In generations past, women generally made men wait until marriage to have sex.