Choice to not appear to straight people- this cuts way down on creepy straight dudes so blinded by their own delusional desperation they refuse to believe “gay” means “not interested in men including you”Experience: The biggest free dating app in America, Ok Cupid combines a wide array of filters, detailed profiles, and arguably the largest density of LGBTQ women to choose from.I, and most gay women I know, have at some point(s) used Ok Cupid to go upon date after awkward date in hopes of (maybe) meeting someone worth waxing sweet nothings upon.Since Tinder sees me ending up with a man, even though the thought of ending up with a man makes me internally scream, I spent 99% of the time pressing “x.” If you want to see more about someone, you can look at their very limited profile to see five pictures, a brief summary of how chill they are, and what “likes” you share. Unfortunately, Tinder operates under the oppressive, hetero-normative assumption that that person will be of the opposite sex.
Amenities: Tinder is basically a flip book of people vaguely connected to you on Facebook.
You flip through pictures and press “heart” if you like what you see and “x” if you don’t. I’ve read article upon enthusiastic article about Tinder being the new big thing, and I get the appeal: maybe the one for you is a friend of a friend, just waiting to be discovered.
Tinder treats LGBTQ users as second class users because it views LGBTQ sexualities as second class sexualities; we are not the norm and therefore not worthy of even the most basic of consideration. In addition to sharing the name of unlikable female television characters everywhere, Brenda struggles with style and utility. I would like to put as much distance between access to my lady-bits and men as possible, even on the internet.
Tinder graciously allows LGBTQ women to sign up for their service, but don’t expect them to treat us as anything other than straight. Virtually nothing offends me, but being treated as if my sexual orientation is irrelevant offends me. First of all, who in God’s name decided “Brenda” would be a good name for a dating application? Underneath a depressing palate of cheap lavender and dreary grey, Brenda does really seem like a sweet, well meaning application. Amenities: Brenda can boast the awesome honor of being the only lesbian dating app in the app store. Other features Brenda boasts include: Experience: One thing I love about Brenda is the girls online.
Experience: Tinder is the cyber-equivalent of standing on a street corner, pointing at passers by, and asking “What about that one? Apparently Tinder thinks gay women are just going through a phase, maybe working through some daddy issues, and all we need to do is look at enough pictures of men and we’ll gave an go back to our God-given place on the D.
Out of morbid curiosity, I created a Tinder account linked to one of my straight guy friends facebook, and surprise surprise: not a single picture of a man popped up. I sifted for so ages in hopes that maybe Tinder really does just treat all people as if their sexual preference is equally irrelevant; it doesn’t. Why not just name the app “Gram Gram” and call it a day?
One downside of everyone being on Ok Cupid is everyone will know you are on Ok Cupid.
This is particularly awkward when you click on an appealing profile only to find that profile is someone you know, who knows you, who will know you know they know you’re alone.
I can’t pretend making a profile doesn’t make me self-concious, but I will say that it’s better to put yourself out there in almost any way that to sit at home, re-watching Last week I created a dating profile on each of these sites, and rating apps geared (or accepting) of lesbians based on three criteria: style, amenities, and my personal experience.