The Memphis attorney had always talked about finding the Cliff to her Clair and having brown babies for a real-life Cosby Show family.
It's complicated Toya Lachon, 43, of Washington, D.
C., says she feels frustrated, hurt and even betrayed when she sees Black men with women of other races, but happy when she sees Black women in an interracial relationship."I'm like, Yes, girl, do that," says Lachon. Women are taking control of their happiness."Dating interracially can still come with backlash for both Black men and women.
"There are some who really think that White or non-Black women are superior," Brooks says.
"I don't want these men anyway, because I'm not trying to be a part of somebody's intellectual development as a partner." Many of the sisters in her circle take the fact that some Black guys prefer women who don't look like their mothers personally.
During their college days at the University of Pittsburgh, some Black male friends of Merrian Brooks, 33, would say they didn't know any Black women who were as attractive as White women."Some of the men I really respected would exclusively date White women," she says.
"It felt like confirmation of my insecurity as a dark-skinned Black woman who was single."But Brooks, a pediatrician, says she no longer cares who Black men date.
Stories about the number of Black women who are single have made headlines for years, and many of us are tired of hearing them.
But the reality often hits home during the holidays, when discussing your love life becomes an appetizer at meals with the family.
It didn't matter to me if she was Black or White."That's why he was surprised at the negative reaction he received from some loved ones, mainly those in North Carolina.
A long conversation with his mother helped him understand why some Black women in the family were hurt by his decision."When I was able to step back and put myself in their shoes, I could understand their perspective, even though I didn't agree," Hargrove says. Some of Hargrove's in-laws made it known that he wasn't welcome.
The judge suspended the sentence if they agreed not to return to Virginia for 25 years.