This advice applies to both sexes: Don’t post pictures of yourself from 10 years and/or 40 lbs. Don’t rave about your intense exercise regimen when you’re really a couch potato.
Don’t claim to be a gourmet cook when you can barely boil water.
This applies to women in particular, but not exclusively.
Over the course of several months of online dating, I discovered that the pool of available older women is vast and diverse (as is true of men, although perhaps to a lesser extent) and that with a little effort, a reasonably intelligent, halfway-presentable person can usually generate some interest on dating websites. We’ve survived death and divorce, raised families, managed careers and built support networks of family and friends.
But I wasn’t the same single guy I was the last time I lived here. And I wanted to meet people, so I turned to internet dating as a way to meet eligible women.
That’s one of my favorite books, as well.” carries more weight and is more likely to get a response than a generic response.
Internet anonymity brings out the worst in some people, and there’s a certain amount of that in evidence on dating sites.
A professional photo is a good idea, too — and if you do it right, you can wind up with one shot for your dating profile and one for your Linked In page. If we can’t pick you out of your bowling team lineup or every picture features you in floppy hats and big sunglasses, you’re unlikely to draw much attention.
The same goes for blurry pictures or too many photos of your pets, possessions or grandkids (no offense to the little darlings). Many women I spoke with were alternately amused and disgusted by bare-chested guys flashing their pecs in — you guessed it — bathroom selfies. Ladies: The number of lewd messages you receive is directly proportionate to the amount of skin you display.
A few dating sites allow men and women to fire off a canned “Hey, there! Better to write your own greeting and show you actually looked at the person’s profile.
“I see that you love One Hundred Years of Solitude.
Trust me, no one wants to see your personal care items or shower curtain.
Move to another room (or go outside) and have someone else take your picture.
“Fast Freddy ‘55” may think his bad-boy behavior is secretly a turn-on for women, but he’s deceiving himself.